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The red pill went down hard today. I was recently visiting my brother in Illinois the past week to replace old windows in his new house that I had previously helped remodel last year before his new found girlfriend moved in.

What used to be a bona fide bachelor pad has been turned into something of a Barbie dream house designed specifically for hosting dinner parties or house showings. The kitchen bar has been turned into a crock pot station, the master suite a baby room, and the home office the toy room.

In the three hours I had the pleasure of being in the company of his girlfriend she proceeded to excuse a messy house full of her stuff and lounge in the lazy boy while watching some real house wives of where-ever-ville. “Is that window done yet?” No, miss it isn’t, no thanks to you.

I do not know how he puts up with it. However, Queen B is letting him keep the sweet barn wood in the basement for the man cave, she still wants to paint over them with a “hushed orchid”, or some shade of white. I didn’t know hushed orchid was even a thing. Apparently a pale purple white combo.

On the other hand we have a my sister and brother in law who also redid their basement. Big ass television with a bar and urinal included. You wont see that in Barbie’s dream house. Here the social dynamics have shifted entirely. The brother in law is the one making decisions on his house, because he is the one doing the manual labor. He wouldn’t allow something like “hushed orchid” to step one foot in the newly built man cave. This sister usually cooks a nice meal and keeps the house clean no questions asked. Both of them seem happier with accepting appropriate dominant and submissive roles than the former with the roles reversed.

As different as the two scenarios may be, there is one thing they shared in common. Frame ← You will find several examples of frame and its brother by authors in the Manosphere, but possibly most notably by Christian McQueen breaking it down in one of his many books here.

Frame is holding your ground in the face of a girl’s bullshit Some of these may qualify as shit tests other times a girl just needs to be reminded who holds the dominant position in the relationship or most interactions for that matter.

A recent example involving myself was this girl for some reason thought it was okay for her to act hyper violent around me and proceed to assume I’m balling my eyes out to Titanic on a daily basis. I should mention this violence was beyond the threshold of playfulness and needed to be addressed. The Titanic garbage can be blown off with simple “Keep telling yourself that”, but the violence had to stop.

After about two days of her coming over for drinks and a good time, I had to let her know “You’re banned from here until hyper violent shit stops and learn some manners.” Taken back at first and her face was priceless. Like she’s never heard some one put her back in her place before.

She’s made some improvements and the next time she came over after going to bed and letting my hands do what they wanted (haven’t sealed the deal yet), with her head on my chest and her arm around me, she tells me, “If I ever act up again, you let me know.” I had to laugh.

By holding my frame and calling her out, this hot piece of ass is well on her way to being conditioned to be fine, submissive, and feminine girl. She leaves for Scotland in September, but I’m positive we’ll have some fun before then. 😉

Establish your frame.

Join movement,
Peace.

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When I started working on myself for the better, I didn’t have the initial lash back from friends or family. About damn near everyone of them offered some kind of encouragement for the most part. There was a little bit of confusion like “what the fuck, man?” when I would hang out at a friends house and instead of paying attention to netflix or playing super smash bros. I would be reading manosphere blogs, but that was the worst of it until I started to notice something recently.

I am not sure whether it’s just my environment where they say, “if you’re the most successful person in the room find a new room” or if those around are me feel some kind of inferiority complex. I am not trying to arrogant about what I’ve done with myself, but due to not drinking and working out as routinely as brushing my teeth, people have either been distancing themselves from me or I have reached a different level of personal development. I am merely expressing and reaching out to people on a path to self-improvement that may have or might encounter similar experiences. That being said…

Is it so hard to find like minded people hell bent on self improvement because there are so few of us? Or am I unable to inspire those around me powerfully enough yet, that they don’t feel the spark inside themselves do better. I’ve gone through six lifting partners now and I think I may have found someone who can consistently keep up with me and not bitch about being “too tired” or “too sore” from the daily activities. We all have day jobs and we’re all busy people, get over it.

In my average of your friends post I talk about having a balance of your successful friends and your party friends. I’m starting to see a skewed distribution with myself having more party friends than I do successful friends. I think I am now down to three who I can consider advantageous in my development whose number I actually have in my phone. Three. Three out of 300. 1% of the people I can call on my phone do I consider a mentor, a teacher, or someone with experience in something I would like to improve on.

I would like to believe we can learn something from everyone we meet in some shape or form, but at what cost. The crabs in the barrel metaphor rings truer than ever. Those who can’t do something want to tell you can’t do it because they’ve never done it. They sit around all day on imgur or have no ambitions after work other than to binge on netflix and have the next finest beer circle jerk over a new Indian pale ale.

To avoid feeling like a lone wolf in a pack of bored sheep, seek out these people that can act as mutual development partners. Connect with people in online communities as well. I follow Elliot Hulse’s videos religiously. Never met him, but he does follow me on Twitter so there’s that. Someone I have never met has had more of impact than hundred of people I’ve met in real life. Really cherish these kinds of people you find that can help you help yourself. It make take some prodding at first, as successful people will want to keep themselves away from crabs themselves, but if you can prove to them you’re serious, it’ll be worth it.

I may never understand why some people choose to be average, and it may be lonely at the top, but I bet the view is incredible.

Join the movement.

Peace.

“In our view the patriarchy the expression of deep and rooted masculinity, for truly deep and rooted masculinity is not abusive. Patriarchy is the expression of immature masculine.”

KWML

Robert Moore and Douglas Gillete have written one of the most definitive works on masculine psyche of our time, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine
and for the most part has gone unnoticed in the bloggers I’ve read atleast. With the same goal of a “Return of Kings” so to speak this book should be somewhat of a masculine bible along with Jack Donovan’s The Way of Men

Robert and Douglas begin with the state of the male psyche as it was in the 90s even, long before anyone Manosphere writer even began to publish works on masculinity. (Seems like the decline has been going on much longer than I thought) They describe how we have lost much of our rituals for boys becoming men and we have become stuck in the boyhood psyche. An immature masculine bent on validation, fear, and weakness. That is we have never reached a balance of our King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover archetypes.

KWML Chart

Even in the first 40 or so pages my perception began to change. You begin to know yourself through the four archetypes to get to know others and their imbalance of the four archetypes. I saw my boss as the high chair tyrant. A couple friends as overly aggressive Warriors. Another as a positive King-Warrior type. I myself thought I was too much of a lover-magician type, with some examples of an overly aggressive Warrior, completely lacking in King qualities. In an attempt to connect with the King I became a lot calmer, but I alsos think I lost most of my Warrior type. Becoming content with my situaiton, extinguishing my fire to go out and improve my situation, basking in what I had but stagnating on what I wanted. Maintaining balance within the 4 types is more difficult than you would like to believe. To be a completely grounded individual in all 4 requires a deep understanding of when to be which one at what time and also when to be a combination of the 4.

I would argue that to correct my contented Kingship, I need to incorporate the other 3 as well. The quick decision and fire of the warrior to keep me going on my desired path; The craftiness of the magician to master the skills needed create and the wisdom to have perspective; and the tenderness of the lover to keep myself from becoming to serious in life, creating the work-play balance.

One of the biggest things I noticed while reading this was the majority of my friends and I used to just a Lover type. The guy who made of light of every situation, but was never a magician creating something or a master at his craft. Never a Warrior with quick decisiveness and brazen. Nor were they a King, being a humbled leader. Another example of the lack in masculine rituals to create these call to adventures

This post was a little all over the place I know, but no one post would cover the extent of knowledge inside this book. Even the authors had to take the original book and split it up in to 4 new ones specifying more on the seperate types. All in all reading this book encourages and inspires you to look into others and especially yourself as to what you are most identify with as well as what types you are lacking in if you even have it all or are still stuck in a boyhood type.

Peace.

Kinda funny that the guy that suggested this idea is the same guy that has an inactive blog which also happened to be my first blog I read introducing me into the sphere. I’ve touched upon this before,but have never actually taken the time the explain my coming into the sphere or show gratitude to those who have taught me everything I know.

You know the story of how I stumbled upon Worthless. But how I came to be interested in these ‘life blogs’ as I knew them as at the time was due to a good friend of mine. I saw a friend of mine changing his life and getting shit from it from the other guys I was naturally drawn to this unusualness. I mean we all gave him shit, myself included. But that didn’t stop me from actually finding out what exactly we were giving him shit for.

Like the rest of my friends, I too wasted countless hours on video games. I was ranked on Halo 3, baby! Played with a couple professionals every once in awhile, but just didn’t care to go that route. How lame does that sound? Pro video game player? That game is going to be obsolete in a few years anyway. Profusely beta, wasted so much time on a one single girl with no results. Putting girls on a pedestal to the max and being there when the ‘asshole’ broke up with them was not uncommon. Scrawny as all hell even though I set records in push ups, sit ups and pull ups when fitness testing came around in gym class. Blew money like it was nothing on stupid shit all the time. Wasn’t my fault I worked a lot in a boring town with nothing else to do, but to waste money on stupid things. (ok maybe it was…)

Oddly enough though, the ones who do go through their younger years being a “not-have” in a way, always tend to reshape their lives to a point much further than those who always did have it. A small percentage does this, the ones who do take action, these people need to prepare to get shit for it.

People who end up doing great things always get shit for it when they start out. That good friend of mine got shit for it, and now I’m just getting over the shit getting stage. But the first stage was finding the sphere….

The sphere is filled with several ways for a young man with dwindling positive male role models(although on the rise, I would argue) to reshape his life and stop going down the road of an average beta infused wage slave. Topics ranging from finance, politics, health, fitness, self-employment, women, game, traveling, etc. I really don’t think there is a topic important enough they haven’t touched upon. There literally is a niche blog for everything out there. You just have to find it.

Being as beta as I was I didn’t really latch on to the game concept right away. Damn near denied it. HA! Boy was I wrong. Once I moved on to Heartiste, that changed real quick. Dude can link game concepts to legitimate scientific studies. Follow this guys word to the point, fellas. I quickly went back and read all of Frost’s game topics with a new intensity.

Everything was coming together like clock-work. My fitness lead to better health, my health led to more confidence, my confidence led to more success with women, my success with women lead to a desire to succeed in other areas, my interest in politics comes and goes correlating with its intrusion on my pursuit of happiness. I have several trips lined up in future to explore the world and my finances have never looked better, besides the whole college debt thing.

Without the sphere, I’d probably be still scrawny, beta, and broke. Show gratitude my friends and if you feel like you too can add to the value of the sphere, start a blog your self and start producing more than you consume.

Peace.