Posts Tagged ‘average’

Every man has started from humble beginnings. Born a child, raised a boy, became a man. He was not given success. It was earned. Through blood, sweat, tears, rejection, cycles of motivation and depression of hitting high points and low points in his quest for improvement.

Starting out afraid of what he might become pursuing something he doesn’t even know will truly satisfy his need to be better, to be recognized, to be validated in some way, whether for himself or a promise he made to someone dear. Asking himself, “Will I be the same person, I started out as when I finish?”

Reaching a point in the middle of his journey after putting in the hours, reading all he can and putting into action the valuable lessons he learned from his mentors, and STILL failure, after failure he endures. Asking himself this time “Is this even worth it? I put int the work, where are MY results that other people are getting?”

A possible identity crisis, after seeing the changes he’s made to himself he thought for the better, but now his friends see him as a threat to their mediocrity, he now has become “too good” to hang out with his friends, just for pursuing his goals in life to better himself the best way he knows how. Asking himself now “What happened to me? Did I take a wrong turn some where?”

Realizing, this is exactly where he wants to be. He has come a long way since then and has have long way to go yet. For self-improvement is a life long process that takes time and effort. You will get knocked down during this struggle, but will be well worth it if you persevere.

Who can identify with one of the scenarios above? I’ve dealt with all four.

Looking back…

In my time, I have been rejected countless times by girls I wanted to date, dance with at a bar, have sex with, even have a simple conversation with. Embrace it. Failure is the touch stone of success, because for every failure you become more experienced. Learn from these failures and you will never BE a failure. This is all a part of the process. You wouldn’t believe the ‘pedestaling’ I did, the things I did for, the money I’ve spent, the time I’ve wasted, on a girl for YEARS, just to have a few drunken make outs. Can you say cuttin’ ties? The law of abundance has never been so sweet to abide by.

I’ve spent plain stupid amounts of money on plain stupid shit for most of my life. Did I NEED that new video game? Did I NEED that big TV? Did I NEED to see that new movie? Fuck no. I was wasting my money on impulse buys that would never benefit me in the long run. I was quenching my thirst for immediate gratification only to be left with a undying lack of satisfaction.

I never took my lifting seriously. I would go to the gym do my workouts if I felt like it and screw it if I didn’t. I ended up not going, more often than not and eating bread and pasta wasn’t helping my case. I’d play the steroids card, the genetics card, the I don’t have time card, anyway to try and rationalize my failure in the field. Motivation and discipline were non-existent.

I used to want to be average. I wanted an average house, average wife, average job, average life. I just wanted to live my life like everybody else. I didn’t want any trouble. Trouble was scary. Trying to be something more was hard. I just want things to be easy and stable. A normal life where the only thing I would have to worry about is keeping up with the Jones’.


Pretty sad right? What kind of life would that be if stuck with what I was doing? Tell ya one thing I wouldn’t be writing this right now that’s for sure. I’ve come a long way from where I was.

I no longer spend money on stupid shit.

I can easily talk to a girl and leave her wanting more by the end of the night.

I have taken my health and fitness to a serious level.

I am so hell bent on improvement I can never see myself being satisfied with anything I accomplish. Never will I be content with what I have. A harsh truth, but I love the challenge.

Looking Forward!

Being the hell bent man on improvement that I am, I can’t help, but want to improve even further than I have since first making the decision to do so. I want even more out of life. This may be very late for new years resolutions, but I never found that type of thing too inspiring. Everyone has new years resolutions. Not everyone aspires to become something greater than themselves. So without further a do. I plan on improving those same four things even further.

I WILL make more money than I ever have through smarter and harder hours of work.

I WILL approach more girls with this impeccable wit and charm, wooing them into my arms 😉

I WILL gain more muscle with a strict program focusing on my weak points, complimented with a diet built for muscle growth.

I WILL never be average.

Expect detailed reports and my personal how-to’s as I journey with you on your path towards self-improvement.

Next time.

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Average of Your Friends

Posted: January 15, 2014 in Improvement
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There’s been talk all around the web about how you are the average of five closest friends or the five people you hang out with most. Thus, bringing forth articles suggesting you surround yourself only with successful people to improve yourself and cutting out friends and even family that aren’t as successful as you. Now I’m all for cutting shit out when things aren’t adding up if those friends and family are straight toxic to your development, however, I’ve noticed advantages on both sides of the table.

Find two groups of friends, separate or some kind of sub groups inside a larger group of friends. The first will be the friends you know that are with out a doubt more successful, more ambitious, or better than you at at least one thing that you can learn from them and they are willing to help you. They are of course your friends and should be more than happy to help you. I have never had anyone turn me away when I’ve come for help on something. This will be the people you hang out with primarily when you want to get shit done. Go the gym wil them, talk about future job prospects with them, comment on their new found style, more often than not, in my group of friends I find that are more successful than I am read the same interesting articles or maybe some random TED talk I do and we have a thought provoking chat over a few beers about it. At the very least one of us has a new book, article, movie or music to suggest to other. Just being around people that you know are more successful than you can be inspiring for yourself to go work on our physique, knowledge, or side hustle you have going on.

Your second group of friends will be the ones you know you are doing better than. No offense to these bros, love em to death but while I was on my way up they must have been stuck on the stair master, because I was the same place they were a few years back and only one of us has really bounced back from it better than before. These are the guys that keep you sane when you’ve been working hard on becoming a better version of yourself. Not only does being in the company of people not quite as successful as you are make you feel better about yourself it can also serve as a way to relax and recharge after a possible stressful day of doing your thing. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s ok to hang out with these type of people, trust me they throw some hella good parties, but theres more to life than that. They may be the man now for the four or some years now they have in college, but they won’t be when they’re broke and all they have to look forward to the day is escaping reality with drugs and alcohol. Don’t let it become a habit. Use these friends wisely.

Now this is where you become the average of these two groups of friends. Both groups of friends, (I’m assuming these are sub groups of the same larger group of friends, every body has them) will see you on both sides, all work and no play makes thatGuy a dull boy right? In my experience the first group will hit you up when the time comes to play, and the second group will see your progress through your actions with the first group when they finally chose to better themselves if any at all. Never try to tell the second group about how your bettering yourself, always let them come to you. This way you know they’re serious after the second or third time they persist on you helping them out. If you try to force them, it will only result in bitter jealousy and bullshit excuses. But in the case that they do come forward for help there is a great feeling that comes with giving back, plus it helps you with your own development by teaching it to others. If you can’t teach something, you’ll always be the student.

Keep your ambitious friends from burning out, get your not so ambitious friends in gear, and you will find yourself both improving yourself and giving back to those determined enough to make changes to their lives. Life is a balance between work and play. Keep it that way and it feels good, man.

Next time.